Many people say that you can choose your friends but not your family. I don't know if I would choose my family, if I could make a decision like that. I do love them but this is not stuff like "They drive me crazy".
It's that I can't live with them anymore. I am so repressed by all of them. I love them so much but I am not happy when I am around them.
I am so unhappy...
My mom and my dad mostly. And especially my mom. She is a good person, she doesn't care about grades, boyfriends etc, only for my health. But so many times she just makes me do so much housework or she yells at me for tiny mistakes (for example, if I bring her the wrong brand of ice cream she yells at me and tells me that I am stupid). Or some other times she screams that the dvd is over and when I don't listen to her because of the noise my sister makes, she is angry at me and says that she is all alone and I am not a person to rely on.
I just can't take it anymore.
And this is the reason that I don't want to go on vacation with anyone of them. I CANT. I wish I could go away from this house and move into another with a friend of mine as a roomate. The only reason I don't do that, is due to money. But I wish in two years I will be able to do that.
God, I just have to be so patient. I don't want to say anything to hurt her because those things can't be told to your mother.
And of course I know that many children and teenagers are being abused by their moms and I should say "Thank God I am not one of them and I should be thankful of that and not nag about that" But you know, it's not right. I should not live based on this belief. It's like taking the newspaper, reading about a murderer and then say "Aw, I am better than him, so I am a good person".
Ok, that's all I had to say about my "Mom issues". I have plenty of them but I can't do anything about it. The only solution is to leave.
Until then, patience.
Just patience.
It's that I can't live with them anymore. I am so repressed by all of them. I love them so much but I am not happy when I am around them.
I am so unhappy...
My mom and my dad mostly. And especially my mom. She is a good person, she doesn't care about grades, boyfriends etc, only for my health. But so many times she just makes me do so much housework or she yells at me for tiny mistakes (for example, if I bring her the wrong brand of ice cream she yells at me and tells me that I am stupid). Or some other times she screams that the dvd is over and when I don't listen to her because of the noise my sister makes, she is angry at me and says that she is all alone and I am not a person to rely on.
I just can't take it anymore.
And this is the reason that I don't want to go on vacation with anyone of them. I CANT. I wish I could go away from this house and move into another with a friend of mine as a roomate. The only reason I don't do that, is due to money. But I wish in two years I will be able to do that.
God, I just have to be so patient. I don't want to say anything to hurt her because those things can't be told to your mother.
And of course I know that many children and teenagers are being abused by their moms and I should say "Thank God I am not one of them and I should be thankful of that and not nag about that" But you know, it's not right. I should not live based on this belief. It's like taking the newspaper, reading about a murderer and then say "Aw, I am better than him, so I am a good person".
Ok, that's all I had to say about my "Mom issues". I have plenty of them but I can't do anything about it. The only solution is to leave.
Until then, patience.
Just patience.
19 comments:
I think all teen and parents have trouble at times communicating and understanding each other.... but hang in there...this time will pass much quicker than you think. Believe it or not, the time will come when you are away from your home and you will miss it. You will remember the good things and the bad memories will fade.
I'm sure that I did many things that my girls were not happy about at the time.... but you know what???? ... we have forgotten about them. As I look back I only remember the wonderful times. Today my girls are my best friends. My happiest times are when we can be together.... and I think they feel the same way.
Try to focus on the good things your mother does for you. Try to overlook the negative. Be glad that her greatest concern is for your health. I bet you would feel badly if your mom was all upset because you didn't get high enough grades to get into the school you wanted. Maybe she says that grades aren't that important because she wants to make you feel better. Maybe she doesn't make a big deal about boyfriends because she knows you don't have one yet.
Moms sometimes seem more grouchy than we mean to because being a parent and teaching our children is such a big responsibility. It will all work out for you. Your mother loves you. As you say....HAVE PATIENCE and be thankful for the home you've got. Someday you will see it from a whole different view point. Love, Grammy
Thanks for dropping by and wishing my Lynell a happy birthday.
I agree with Grammy Staffy, she right. I remember how it was when I still lived at home, and how awful I thought it was. My dad's gone now and I miss him terribly. My sister lives in another town, and my mom has remarried and sold our old house.
Of course I'm married now and have a teenage daughter of my own.
Thinks change they never stay the same. Don't worry this time wont last forever. It just seems that way, lol.
Janice~
Hello my little friend...your post made me do some soul-searching for something to say...
When I was your age, I kind of thought my Mom and Dad didn't care about me...and sometimes I just wanted to leave...
When I finally did leave home, it took me a little while to realize just how smart and loving my parents were. They wanted the best for me. You are so fortunate that your Mom cares about your HEALTH..because when it comes down to it, it the MOST IMPORTANT possession you will ever have. I do know that, when you finish your schooling, find your prince-charming and get married, and start having children of your own, you will then realize what your parents did for you. It has to come full cirlce though.
For right now, go on vacation, read your books, take your wonderful pictures (that you can share with us, your frieds from far away) and enjoy just being with your family..because believe me, FAMILIES ARE FOREVER...the rest of the stuff comes and goes....
I am happy you will be able to keep in touch with us, because our 'CYBER DOOR IS ALWAYS OPEN TO YOU'. Take care my friend..and keep smiling. Life is always better from behind a smile..LOL
Grammy Staffy
I believe you are right but sometimes I feel like I do not belong to this family =[
I know it's not right but still....
I don't want to hurt any of them, especially my mom but.. well, I explained how she is most of the time. And today I was crying again because of a situation like that =[
I just wish I could leave as soon as possible.
You have a great relatioship with your daughters and I have a good relationship with my mom. She cares about me but... God...it's so complicated. And she doesn't even know that. And she is never gonna know. That's why I want to leave. So as no one gets hurt.
I try to focus on the good things she does for me and the greatest one is that she supports me no matter what. But she just is this person who orders everyone, you know?
Still, we have fun many times, we laugh and we are always there for each other. But like I said...
It's complicated...
Good night =]
Janice I surely know that I am gonna miss them if I even move out some day but I don't want to say anything I don't really want to in a fight. And there are so many things that have been hidden and sealed that I am afraid I will say sth..
Thank you and good night =]
Grandma B thank you for your support =]
I know that both of them care so much about me and that they would die of sadness if anything happenned to me. But you know, all the fights are so tiring and I am so tired and messed up lately that I can't take it anymore. And not with my dad, as I said but with my mom.
I respect her, love her, care so much for her but many times I want to tell her how I feel but fortunately I haven't and I will not ever tell her. And my feeling is not hate (for God!) it's just anger and other depressing feelings.
I know that it is so important that she cares about my health and not about boys or grades or etc. But so many times I feel so broken.
Anyway, thank you again =]
Good night and have a nice week =]
Hello again my little friend. I just wanted to say hello and let you know that I am thinking about you. Have a good day. LOL Grammy
Hello Cinderelen..
i had read your post..
i don't know what to said..
but i just want to drop you a message...
to support you..
Every cloud has a silver lining..
I was thinking about you this morning..and I had an idea. Would you please tell us about your country !! Without a doubt, it is very beautiful, and with you living there..you could give us a glimpse into Greece that many of us will never be able to see. So it would be wonderful if you could spot-light it for us. Tell us about your traditions, special foods, holidays and such. PLEASE PLEASE
Give it a thought O.K. and I will be checking back with you....LOL
Drop by my blog. I gave you an award. Love, Grammy
Thank you all so much for your beautiful comments... I feel so happy to have you as my internet friends and I feel that you support me so much.
I am on vacation right noiw and I am writing from a weird computer. I came home for an hour to take care of some things and I will be back to this island in less than an hour. I rpomise i will upload spmke photos when I willbe able to have internet but right now i dont, not even wireless... So, i will pleasantly visit all ur blogs the next week, definitely and I will tell you my summer news.
Thank you all,
Hugs and kisses =]
I will look forward to visiting with you when you get back. I hope that you are having a good vacation.
When you get back be sure drop by my July 2nd post and pick up the love and award I have for you there.
My dear the good news is that things pass with the time and you will be more strong and you will more quiet. The bad is these problems in human relations always repeat in the time. What we can make?? learn to live with these and you always have in your heart only for you a place with peace, love and faith.
Im married many years and have two childs (twins of 14) they are beauty and the porblems with them are not soo big, we (the three) understand each other a lot but the Father (my hubby) is now a difficult persona by the stress and other things (pression,work, etc.) and just yesterday we have a tremendous fight...by the childs, so if you question yesterday I was so sad but today (is morning here) I feel quiet at all I think God take care I dont know but we have to continue walking..... A big hug and kisses if you want to may visit me any time (I have a blog english/spanish) xxxGloria
Grammy Staffy thank you so much for your beautiful comments =] You care so much about me, it is so nice =]
I am on vacation right now, I do have my laptop with me bout noooo internet =[ I will be back on August 1st and I cant wait to go hooooome!!
I am going to visit your blog right now =]
Da da heyyy how are you? Thank you for your support, I am happy you visited my blog =]
I will do the same and come by your blog on August because I am in an internet cafe and I am not feeling so comfortable X[
Grandma B well that's very nice idea. As soon as I return from my boring holidays (!) I will upload the photos I took and all the other pretty photos of my country. I am sure you will all like them. I will try to show you my country through my pictures because I am not so good a t5 talking !
Ok, in August, when i will be home i will make a whole new post =]
ps I hate to write from an internet cafe right now =[
Gloria thank you so much for your comment =] I am glad you visited my blog and I do promise that in August, when i will come back from the holidays and I will be writing from my own computer and not from a fuilthy internet cafe, i will visit your blog. I see that other families may have problems too and especially in teenage years =]
Hugs and kisses :*
I like your photo for the post ;)
Like you said, teenage years are difficult - it is a time of rebellion & desire for independence.
I wish you the best in everything!
Nikon yes, I agree with you =]
Thank you, have a nice summer =]
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