Well, to be honest, I have never been in a relationship. The first and only time I fell in love was when I was 15 and because I was scared of commitment I blew it up and he was hurt so bad...
After that, I never even got on a second date because all the guys I dated were either jerks or stupid or they just weren't what I was looking for.
Anyway, finally I found a guy that is so right for me and he is smart, nice, so kind, funny, sensitive and he for example doesn't have relationships just for being with someone.
Unfortunately he is already in a relationship with another girl. He is in my class and in seven days, it will be the last time I will see him. We have each others cell phone numbers but only for friendship. And what friendship! Only a goodmorning we say, not even another word.
And people have told me that before they met me they thought of me as a snob but then they totally thought the opposside, I mean when they got to know me better they told me that I am a kindhearted and sympathetic person. This happens because I am a bit shy...
I want to make a connotation to him so as to show him my feelings, the last day, but I don't want to be the "Third Person" or the reason they split up. Actually, I don't even know what to say to him and I am not sure that he likes me at all because of all this snob side they all think I have and they are scared of me. And it is a bit too late to show him my other side.I will see him again exactly 4 days.
I don't know what to do, and I know.... ok, don't laugh, but I think he is the one. Ok, again, this might sound soooo stupid but I know how I feel and I know me and I do believe that if he really looks and not just sees me, he will like me. Gosh, I don't know what to do...
I need some good advice pleaseeeeee.... :(
ps. Grandma B and Grammy Staffy I am sure you will hepl me as you have helped me in all those other issues. I am so lucky I found you :)
ps. Grandma B and Grammy Staffy I am sure you will hepl me as you have helped me in all those other issues. I am so lucky I found you :)
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Dear Cinderelen,
I would never laugh at you. I know how intense young love can be.
If this fella means so much to you, I think that you should at least let him know that you like him. If you are shy he may have no idea of how you feel. My Mindy was quiet and shy. School mates sometimes thought she was being a snob when she was just being shy.
Smile and be friendly and let him know that you would like to get to know him better in the future. If he calls.....fine. If he is serious about the other girl and doesn't call then that is o.k. too.... at least you let him know how you feel and you don't want to get mixed up with any guy that doesn't consider you his # one.
Now, having said that, I also want to tell something that you probably don't want to hear.....Give yourself time girl! You are young and have so much growing and changing ahead of you. The guy that you think is perfect for you today most likely will not be the same guy that you will pick in 4 years.
I would advise you not to get serious with anyone yet....no matter how "yummy" they are. I can't even begin to tell you of all the young hearts I've seen broken over the 22 years I taught high school, because the kids got too involved and serious too soon.
Give yourself time to go to college... get your education...start a career (kinder teacher I hope) and meet lots of fellas. There is someone special out there for you but you have plenty of time to find him.
Meanwhile I bet you will have lots of fun dating in college. (I didn't date in high school. I think the boys thought I was too smart just because I got good grades. However, I had a blast dating in college.)
Good luck but don't worry if this boy doesn't work out. You will see that there are lots good guys left for you to "catch" in a few years when you are at a place you are more ready for a relationship. LOL
Grammy Staffy firstly thank you so much for your amazing comment =)
I am so glad you are writing to my blog those so honest, sweet and nice comments =)
Yes, I know I am a bit young for serious relationship and that kind of stuff but I don't know, I felt so weird when I saw him....
I will take your advice and I will try to show him that I like him and I will not do anything else. It will be his turn to do something and I do not intend to make the other girl sad.
And also, no, I wanna hear everything you "say" to me =)
Yes, I should but I don't like him because he is pretty etc. I mean, he is not thaaat pretty but I love his character!
And I am not that kind of girl that is having a relationship just to be like the others! I mean, I havent even kissed someone yet =]
Oh, and for God, I didn't mean by serious the "sexual life"! I am just making that clear! I meant the oppossite of this that teenagers do, like making out all the time etc...
Gosh, I complicated all those stuff, I hope you can get what I mean because I wrote the one thing above the other!
Anyway, thank you again so much =) I was sure you would help me =)
I'm glad that I could help. I am also glad that you are such a good girl. I was like you. I also had not had a romantic kiss at your age. I had boys who were my friends but they all had other "girl" friends.
However, in college that changed for me. Lots of boys asked me on dates. While I did not ever get sexual with any of them, I did fall in love with a fine young man.
It turns out that I did not marry him.
I was so thankful that we had never done anything but kiss. I would have felt terrible if we had ever done anything inappropriate... but we didn't.
When I met my John my during my third year of college, I knew he was the right one for me. We met in Sept., got engaged in March and married in July. We waited until our wedding night to have sex. We have been married almost 43 years and we are still glad that we waited to get involved in that way. It has been a special bond between us.
I encourage you to keep your high standards. Good for you. You will be so glad in the long run.
Good luck talking to your young man. I will be thinking of you. LOL
Oh, thank you so much Grammy Staffy =)
You are a wonderful person =)
Aaaw, this is so romantic! And you got married so soon? Then you surely knew he was the one =) I am so happy you care so much for a person you ve met on the internet for such a little time.... This shows again how kindhearted you are :)
I hope everything turns out good.
If not, life goes on =)
Have a nice day =)
Thanks for visiting my blog. I just came by to "meet" you.
Good luck with all your decisions.
Be careful and make wise choices.
Have a great week!
Well, thank you Wendi =)
I hope I will.
=)
Hi,
I wanted to thank you for leaving a comment on my blog.
If your shy that something your going to have to work on. Smiling and being friendly or just friendlier will help.
Don't worry about this one he's with somebody else. But I promise you there will be another guy and probably soon, and he'll think that your shyness is real sweet (and your pretty cute too).
Janice~
Well, Janice thank you too for your support =)
And yes, probably there will be another guy because this one is not giving me any attention at all :(
But I do think possitive =)
Hi my young friend,
How is it going? Did you talk to him? What did you say? Did he say anything encourageing?.... if not IT IS HIS LOSS! Don't you worry. Mr. Right is out there for you.
Grammy Staffy hello and good morning =)
Well, things do not turn out as I wanted but the possitive is that I am not neither depressed nor sad. I actually am totally ok just a bit angry.
I sent him many messages in the last month like: "Hey, how are you"? or "Hello, did you do good in this exam? It was soooo difficult for me!" and about five or six others and he didnt even reply to me.
He is just so rude and I am not in love with him anymore, I am just angry at him. And he didnt explain anything at schoo. The fact that I am not his girlfriend doesnt mean that he should treat me like I do not exist.
Grrr.
But I am so glad I am not in love anymore! I wasn't smiling, I wasn't so happy, I wasn't even eating many times. But now I am good.
And thank you so much for asking =)
Again, I am so glad you truly care =)
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Obviously he is not as nice as you thought he was or he would have been kind to you. Even if he has a girl friend he should have been friendly and polite.
I'm glad that you are doing o.k.
Good for you.Good luck
Grammy Staffy yes, you are right. And why bother about him anymore? I just wish him to be happy with her :)
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Hi!
I have been super busy and have not had the chance to write in a while... but it looks like my cute mom is giving you lots of good advice. She is the best!
Take your time... have fun and get to know who you are... it will make you a better wife and mother someday... smile!
I'm so glad you're done with school for now, Congratulations!!
I hope you have a great day!!
Well, hello Erin :)
Yes, your mom is helping me a lot for instance in my latest post to make an important decision =)
Thank you for your visit =)
ps Finally school is over for good :D
Hi,
Thank you leaving another comment on my blog.
I glad you are off the young man. I want you to know there will be another there's always another.
Smile and don't think of mr. Rude anymore you have better things to do.
Janice~
Well, I kind of got in at the end of this relationship, but I can tell everything worked out for you. You are soooo very young, beautiful and talented, and have so much to offer this big old world. Have you ever heard the expressions "you have to kiss a thousand frogs, before you find your prince"? It's true...my deepest heartaches came from when I was younger. So many times, I think, we feel we have found the right one, only to find out they were actually a jerk. I can tell you are looking for the right things though, when you mention his character, and not only his good looks. Over years, looks fade, but true and good character is the most important thing to have.
SOMEDAY YOU PRINCE will ride up on his white horse...and you will know it. Please, for right now, go to college...get good grades...develop your attributes...know who you are and where you want to go in life...you will be just fine.
Thank you for leaving the comment about my Dad. He was a special person, but you know, it took me a while to realize that. Guess sooner or later we all grow up. Have a wonderful day...
Janice thank you too =)
I hope you are right...
Have a nice afternoon and happy weekend!!
Oh and I wish your daughter to have great summer vacations away from school :D
Grandma B thank you so much for your good words :D
SOMEDAY YOU PRINCE will ride up on his white horse
As about that, I hope you are right too, and I know he will come but I just wonder, when. Well, there is no rush as you ve said! There is plenty of time for this and I should consider other things in my life which go first. And I actually do =)
Thank you for cheering me up again =)
Have a nice afternoon =)
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I meant to say....
SOMEDAY YOUR PRINCE will ride up on his white horse...so much for proof reading...
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Cinderelen,
You are very sweet. Love is really the most important thing in life. Don’t worry, the one will show up, and when he does you’ll notice... I know that cause I’m 41 and happily married for 14.
A big hug from Portugal,
Carlos
Carlos I do agree with you, love is the most important thing in the whole world =]
I wish your marriage will keep being like that =]
Thank you for the advice, you are so sweet, too =]
Good night :*
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